KEVIN LEMAN QUOTES

Christian psychologist & author

Your home needs to be a place where your kids can fail--and learn from their failure. Surround them with love, show them how important they are to you, but don't try to undo their failures. It's not our job as parents to get our kids off the hook.

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Making Children Mind without Losing Yours

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Love is a cognitive, willful act. Feelings have very little to do with it, particularly around three o'clock in the morning when the baby needs changing or somebody has "lost it" before getting to the bathroom to throw up.

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Smart Women Know When to Say No

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Moms are, in my opinion, the wonders of the universe. They can leap tall buildings in a single bound, they can go where no person has gone before, and they can somehow get toddlers to eat. The problem is that mothers are also some of the most stressed people on the planet. There's just so much to do and not enough of them.

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What a Difference a Mom Makes

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The older your teenagers are, the more they will have their own ideas and opinions. If you take them seriously, rather than assuming your ideas are always best and the only ones, you will begin to grow a relationship that will extend beyond the hormone-group years.

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Have a New Teenager by Friday

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Nobody's sex life is such that every experience is a ten. You may have to be satisfied with regular eights or sixes and even an occasional three.

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Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage


Every child lives up to the expectation you have for him.

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Have a New Kid by Friday

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Life is a pressure cooker and whether you remain serene or become stressed-out depends on how you handle that pressure.

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Stopping Stress before It Stops You: A Game Plan for Every Mom

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Most arguments with teenagers are setups. Your darling, simply stated, is manipulating you.

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Have a New Teenager by Friday


Women are not for using. Women are for loving.

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Sex Begins in the Kitchen

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Good sex is an all-day affair. You can't treat your wife like a servant and expect her to be eager to sleep with you at night. Your wife's sexual responsiveness will be determined by how willingly you help out with the dishes, the kids' homework, or that leaky faucet that drips throughout the night.

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Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

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How you handle peer pressure -- the pressure your children feel as well as the pressure you feel -- in the early years will play a significant role in how your children handle peer pressure when they become adolescents.

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Adolescence Isn't Terminal

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Daughters are a little weird. (And even when they're not weird, they're a little strange.)

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Be the Dad She Needs You to Be


Why does a dad matter so much to a daughter, in particular? A dad is the one who teaches a daughter what a male is all about. It's the first man in her life--the first man she loves, the first male she tries to please, the first man who says no to her, the first man to discipline her. In effect, he sets her up for success or failure with the opposite sex. Not only that, but she takes cues from how Dad treats Mom as she grows up about what to expect as a woman who is in a relationship with a man. So Dad sets up his daughter's marriage relationship too.

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Be the Dad She Needs You to Be

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A sexually fulfilled husband will do anything for you.

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Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage


Sex is all that it can and should be only when it is surrounded by and wrapped in love.

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Sex Begins in the Kitchen


Remember, you cannot be responsible for the happiness of other people. You can do your best to be sensitive to the needs and desires of others, but some people will not be happy no matter how much you do for them. If you decided you were responsible for their happiness, you could drive yourself completely up the nearest wall.

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When Your Best Isn't Good Enough: The Secret of Measuring Up

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The problem with guilt is that it cements you to the past.

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It's Your Kid, Not a Gerbil

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How parents interact with each child as he or she enters the family circle determines in great part that child's final destiny.

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The Birth Order Book

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A fulfilling sex life is one of the most powerful marital glues a couple can have.

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Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage

Tags: marriage


If you want to improve your sex life as a couple, you need to examine your relationship outside the bedroom. What are you doing that is keeping you from sexual intimacy?

KEVIN LEMAN

Sheet Music: Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage