When we notice a connection between our present fears and their origins in early life, we are finding out how much of our identity is designed by fear. Is fear the architect of me?
DAVID RICHO, When Love Meets Fear
Love is the possibility of possibilities. Its farthest reach is beyond us, no matter how long we love or how much. It will always remain the mute mystery to whose ecstasy and ache we can only surrender with a yes.
DAVID RICHO, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.
DAVID RICHO, The Power of Coincidence
Just as our fingerprints are one-of-a-kind, so is our identity. Each of us is a once-only articulation of what humans can be. We are rare, unmatched, mysterious. This is why the quality of openness is so crucial to our self-discovery. We cannot know ourselves by who we think we are, who others take us to be, or what our driver’s license may say. We are fields of potential, some now actualized, most not yet.
DAVID RICHO, interview, The Urban Muse
Most people think of love as a feeling, but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.
DAVID RICHO, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
We do not create our destiny; we participate in its unfolding.
DAVID RICHO, The Power of Coincidence
In the hero stories, the call to go on a journey takes the form of a loss, an error, a wound, an unexplainable longing, or a sense of a mission. When any of these happens to us, we are being summoned to make a transition. It will always mean leaving something behind.... The paradox here is that loss is a path to gain.
DAVID RICHO, How to Be an Adult
We all recall the cruel stepmother in fairy tales. That archetype is often a necessary element in a fairy tale so that the heroine/hero can become a person of character and power. Stories of heroes and heroines often begin with a wound or loss or injustice and end with heroic acts of restoration.
DAVID RICHO, The Power of Coincidence: How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know
We can actually reconstruct our past by examining what we think, say, feel, expect, believe, and do in an intimate relationship now.
DAVID RICHO, When the Past Is Present
Fate often allows a future to take shape with no regard for our expectation, plan, or readiness. Fate's skillful editing of our life choices is like the careful grooming of lads on their first day of school: combed, polished, scrubbed, newly dressed, and glowing too. This is how we become ready for our life lessons.
DAVID RICHO, The Power of Coincidence: How Life Shows Us What We Need to Know
The most exciting part of finding out who we are is discovering our own uniqueness, who we are outside the box, beyond the categories in a Psychology 101 textbook. In our inimitable singularity, there is an infinite range of possibility that cannot be tied to any one description of what it means to be human or healthy.
DAVID RICHO, interview, The Urban Muse
Humility means accepting reality with no attempt to outsmart it.
DAVID RICHO, The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them
We were born with four words engraved on our bodies and in our hearts: Love me, hold me.
DAVID RICHO, How to Be an Adult in Love
A healthy person is not perfect but perfectible, not a done deal but a work in progress. Staying healthy takes discipline, work, and patience, which is why our life is a journey and perforce a heroic one.
DAVID RICHO, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
Our tears are precious, necessary, and part of what make us such endearing creatures.
DAVID RICHO, The Five Things We Cannot Change: And the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them